How to define success:
I have entered a blog contest, at Problogger for which the requirement is to write a “how to post.” You cannot enter a previous post. This is right up my ally, I thought. I have done many how to posts on the homeowner’s blog. But then, things are never as easy as they seem. After scratching my head for a day, I decided not to do the unusual how to unclog a toilet, or install a stove post. This one is a little more conceptual and off topic. As Jay alluded to yesterday, this is a broad subject.
The dictionary defines success as:
–noun
1. The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.
2. The attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
3. A successful performance or achievement: The play was an instant success.
4. A person or thing that is successful: She was a great success on the talk show.
5. Outcome (obsolete)
While working in the yard one day it struck me: Lately I have noticed that people are generally dissatisfied, grumpy or maybe even depressed. Why? We are, as a society, being driven to do more with less and do it faster.
This is good for our employers, but were does it get us?
What is success?
It has much to do with our society and the emphasis it places on being successful. So what is successful? Owning a big house, a fancy foreign car, and Ivy League schools for the kids? Perhaps that is success, or not. Is success checking completed items off of a list? That method might measure progress, but perhaps not success.
I remember when I was in the service I was able to visit many different places. One thing that always struck me; no matter where I went, and how impoverished the people were, they mostly seemed happy, even when living in a garbage dump in the Philippines. They were poor for certain, but they had spirit, life, confidence and pride.
Material things were nice certainly nice to have, but not necessary.
Success in life is being engaged with family, enjoying what you are doing, living well, learning, affecting others in a positive way, contributing to the social fabric and well being of society, and above all being happy with who you are.
Things that can stand it the way of success:
Greed.
For those bible scholars out there, money is not the route to all evil. Money is an inanimate object made from metal, paper, or plastic. It is no more evil than a soup spoon. It is the drive to have money, and, it seems the addiction to money that makes people do very bad things. Money itself is a means to an end. It buys things like food, shelter, transportation, and so on.
What money cannot buy are love, happiness, satisfaction, self esteem, and immortality.
Consumerism.
It is not enough to own a car, it has to be a nice car and it has to be new. Newer version of X box comes out, time to throw out the old one. Last years clothes are out of fashion. What drives these ideas? Consumerism. We are constantly pitched things that we must have. These sales pitches are specifically targeted and sometimes very subtle.
McDonald’s is a very good example of this. At the end of Sesame Street, there is a group of sponsors that are thanked for there contribution to the production of the program. Almost invariably, one of them is McDonald’s, including the little golden arches logo. McDonald’s knows that brand awareness, even at a very young age, is the key to a long term customer. That is very astute of them. What is not said is that the majority of there food is bad for our health.
For a great book about how a large corporation can control government and manipulate the general public, read “Fast Food Nation” by Eric Schlosser.
Ask the majority of people in the developing world what they fear about the U.S. and it is our culture of consumerism.
A direct offshoot of consumerism is advertising.
Here is a word of warning to everyone that is exposed to advertising: Wal-Mart is not concerned about your well being, in spite of what the add says. All they want is your money. It is that simple.
Is all advertising bad? No, not by a long shot. I have found many good and needed products through advertising. Advertising, when done correctly, is a great communication method and a way to increase awareness in the general population. However, we need to be aware that as a group, we are analyised, sub-grouped, tracked, and surveyed because other people want our money. There are billions of dollars spent in efforts to get consumers to buy things they don’t really need and in many cases cannot afford.
Don’t be a tool and fall for those schemes. We have to separate our needs from those of the advertiser and do what is best for us.
Fear.
I am not talking about the fear when standing on the edge of a cliff that you may fall. That fear is normal, rational and healthy. The fear I am referring to is what happens when you don’t follow the herd. You become strange, unusual, not one of “us.”
Fear is a great motivator to do the will of others. If you don’t work 65 hours a week, you will get fired, lose your house, your car, your wife, etc. If you don’t have the latest and greatest then you are yesterday’s news.
If you change your routine or way of thinking, things will not be familiar.
If you don’t go to church every Sunday you will burn in hell for eternity. That’s a big one.
Fear of losing what we have is the prime motivator of society. Nobody wants to go from riches to rags, not just because you would be losing material possessions, but because of what other people might think. Fear can feed on itself until it becomes irrational.
Learn to face those fears, don’t be conned into following the herd at all costs, don’t be afraid to try new things, don’t be afraid to explore yourself, to plumb the depths of your own psyche and see what lies within.
Sometimes you have to go against the flow. Broad and spacious is the path to destruction, narrow and hard is the right path.
We have to find our own way, that is the challenge of this life.
In summary, success is how you and only you choose to define it. Success is a positive outcome to a event, goal or endeavor which may or may not be immediately apparent.
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